Momodou Jabang <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
Modou Mbye,
I think you are just trying to provoke once again,and I would have love to
know why you think this article is relevant.Is it that you are trying to tell
that it is not wrong for my wife to be my servant,doing the washing,cooking
etc.If this is your hidden intention then sorry you did not make it.
I can see that you are trying to make a point that the comstom that was should
be the departing point for such a relationship.I dont know who is your
wife,but let me put it this way;The day you return back to the Gambia and find
out that there is no longer a job for you and that your wife is at work,she
has a secured jobb.Would you wait until your wife come back home to do the
cooking and washing,whiles you chose to go the mosque or any where else just
to return back home and be serve a meal ?Is this the type of human
relationship that our generation should be preaching about ?
You must wake up to understand that we are leaving in another generation that
demands another form of human relationship and not the enslavement of the
women.Hope this message gets through.
For Freedom
Saiks
Asalaamu alaikum G-l,
Alhamdulillah wasalaatou wasalaamu ala Nabiyyina Muhammad. Someone asked
Skeickh Munajjid
Question:
Is it the wife's duty to do all the housework, must the
husband help her or not? Or is it possible, that her work is
just a favour to the husband and the family and she will be
rewarded for it, as if she gave sadaqa?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
The more correct view in this matter is that stated by a number of
scholars, such as Abu Bakr ibn Abi Shaybah, Abu Ishaaq al-Jawzjaani
and Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on
them), who said that it is the woman’s duty to serve her husband
within the bounds of what is reasonable and as other women who are
like her serve husbands who are like him. She also has to take care of
the house, doing things like cooking and so on, in accordance with
what is customary among people like her and her husband. This
differs according to circumstances, time and place, hence Ibn
Taymiyah said: “This varies according to circumstances. What the
Bedouin wife has to do is not the same as what the urban wife has to
do.”
The evidence for this more correct opinion is:
1.the Hadeeth of al-Bukhaari:
Imaam al-Bukhaari narrated in his Saheeh that Faatimah (may
Allaah be pleased with her), the daughter of the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked him for a
servant. He said, “Shall I not tell you of something that is better
for you than that? When you go to sleep, say ‘Subhaan-Allaah
(Glory be to Allaah)’ thirty three times, ‘Al-Hamdu Lillaah
(praise be to Allaah)’ thirty three times, and ‘Allaahu akbar
(Allaah is Most Great)’ thirty four times.” (Saheeh al-Bukhaari bi
Sharh al-‘Asqallaani, part 9/506).
Al-Tabari said, in his commentary on this hadeeth: we may
understand from this hadeeth that every woman who is able to
take care of her house by making bread, grinding flour and so
on, should do so. It is not the duty of the husband if it is the
custom for women like her to do this themselves.
What we learn from the hadeeth is that when Faatimah (may
Allaah be pleased with her) asked her father (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) for a servant, he did not
command her husband to find her a servant or hire someone to
do these tasks, or to do these tasks himself. If it were ‘Ali’s duty
to do these things, the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) would have commanded him to do them.
2.The hadeeth of Asma’ bint Abi Bakr
Imaam al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) reported in
his Saheeh that Asma’ bint Abi Bakr (may Allaah be pleased
with her) said: “I got married to al-Zubayr, and he had no wealth
on earth and no slaves, nothing except a camel for bringing water
and his horse. I used to feed his horse and bring water, and I
used to sew patches on the bucket. I made dough but I was not
good at baking bread, so my (female) neighbours among the
Ansaar used to bake bread for me, and they were sincere
women. I used to bring date pits from al-Zubayr’s land that the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) had given to him, carrying them on my head. This land was
two-thirds of a farsakh away. One day I came, carrying the date
pits on my head, and I met the Messenger of Allaah (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who had a group of the
Ansaar with him. He called me and made his camel kneel down,
for me to ride behind him, but I felt too shy to go with the men,
and I remembered al-Zubayr and his jealousy, for he was the
most jealous of people. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) realized that I felt shy, so he
moved on. I came to al-Zubayr and told him, ‘I met the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) when I was carrying date pits on my head, and he had a
group of his companions with him. He made his camel kneel
down for me to ride with him, but I remembered your jealousy.’
He said, ‘By Allaah, it bothers me more that you have to carry
the date pits than that you should ride with him.’” Asma’ said:
“After that, Abu Bakr sent me a servant to take care of the
horse, and it was as if I had been liberated from slavery.”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, Fath, 9/319).
In the commentary on the hadeeth of Asma’, it says: from this
incident we may understand that it is the woman’s duty to take
care of everything that her husband needs her to take care of.
This was the opinion of Abu Thawr. Other fuqaha’ suggested
that Asma’ did this voluntarily and that she was not obliged to do
it.
Ibn Hajar al-‘Asqallaani said: “It seems that this incident –
Asma’ carrying the date pitss to help her husband – and other
similar incidents were the matter of necessity, namely that her
husband al-Zubayr and other Muslim men were preoccupied
with jihaad and other things that the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had commanded
them to do, and they did not have time to take care of domestic
matters themselves, and could not afford to hire servants to do
that for them, and there was no one else who could do that apart
from their womenfolk. So the women used to take care of the
home and whoever lived in it, so that the men could devote their
time to supporting Islam.”
Then he said (may Allaah have mercy on him): “What is more
likely is that the matter had to do with the customs in that land,
for customs may vary in this regard.”
It seems that what Ibn Hajar said is close to the view of those
who say that the wife has to take care of her husband and the
home in accordance with the dictates of local custom.
Ibn al-Qayyim said, concerning the story of Asma’: “When the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw
Asma’ with the date pits on her head, and her husband
al-Zubayr was with her, he did not tell him that she did not have
to serve him, or that this was unfair to her. He approved of her
serving him and of all the women among the Sahaabah helping
their husbands. This is a matter concerning which there is no
doubt.”
3.The hadeeth of Jaabir
The Shaykh of the Muhadditheen, Imaam al-Bukhaari (may
Allaah have mercy on him) reported in his Saheeh that Jaabir ibn
‘Abd-Allaah said: “My father died and left seven daughters, or
nine daughters. I married a woman who had been previously
married, and the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said to me, ‘Did you get married, O
Jaabir?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He asked, ‘A virgin or a
previously-married woman?’ I said, ‘A previously-married
woman.’ He said, ‘Why not a young woman so you could play
and joke with one another?’ I said, ‘ ‘Abd-Allaah [the father of
Jaabir] has died and left behind daughters, and I would not like
to bring them someone who is like them, so I got married to a
woman who can take care of them.’ He said, ‘May Allaah bless
you’ or ‘Fair enough.’” (Saheeh al-Bukhaari bi Sharh al-‘Asqallaani,
vol.9/513).
The evidence derived from the hadeeth of Jaabir is that
al-Bukhaari introduced this hadeeth under the heading, “Baab
‘awn al-mar’ah zawjahaa fi waladih (Chapter: a woman helping
her husband with his children)”.
Imaam Ibn Hajar al-‘Asqallaani said, commenting on this
introduction by al-Bukhaari: “It seems that al-Bukhaari derived
the idea that a woman should take care of her husband’s
children from the fact that the wife of Jaabir took care of his
sisters; if she should take care of his sisters then it is even more
befitting that she should take of his children.” (Saheeh al-Bukhaari
bi Sharh al-‘Asqallaani, vol.9/513).
We can say that the wife should take care of her husband, as
this is more befitting than her taking care of his sisters or his
daughters from another wife.
We may also understand from this hadeeth that what was
customary at the time of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) was that women did not only
take care of their husbands, they also took care of those who
were dependent on their husbands and lived in their houses.
The evidence that this understanding is correct is the fact that
the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) did not tell Jaabir off for his reason for marrying a
previously-married woman, which was that she could take care
of his sisters. This indicates that the custom among the Muslims
at that time dictated that the wife should take care of those who
were under her husband’s care, which means that the wife
should serve her husband in those matters that are dictated by
local custom, because the husband’s right to be served by his
wife comes before that of his sisters.
4.‘Urf (custom)
General contracts – including marriage contracts – should be governed
by the customs that are known among the people, and the custom is
that the wife should serve her husband and also take care of matters in
the home. In some societies, the custom is that the wife should take
care of more than the regular domestic matters.
Imaam al-Qurtubi said, concerning the matter of the wife serving her
husband and taking care of the home: “This has to do with ‘Urf,
which is one of the bases of sharee’ah. The women of the Bedouin
and the desert-dwellers serve their husbands, even looking for fresh
water and taking care of the animals…”
What happens nowadays is that the wife – usually – serves her
husband and takes care of different matters within the home. There
may be a servant to help her with that if her husband can afford it. If
the husband knows that the majority of scholars say that it is not
obligatory for the wife to serve her husband and take care of the
house, I say that one of the benefits of this may be that he will not go
to extremes and demand too much of his wife in this regard, and that
he will not give her a hard time if she falls short, because what she is
doing is not a duty according to the majority of fuqaha’. However,
even it is a duty according to some of them – and this is what we
think is more correct – the fact that there is such a difference of
opinion means that the husband has to look at what she is doing as
something voluntary rather than obligatory, or something in which the
scholars differ as to whether it is obligatory, so he should be gentle
with her if he sees that she is falling short in this regard, and he should
encourage her and help her to do it.
(al-Mufassal fi Ahkaam al-Mar’ah by ‘Abd al-Kareem Zaydaan, vol.7/305).
May Allah increase our knowledge of His deen. Allahumma salli wasallim ala
Nabiyyina Muhammad. Wasalaam.
Modou Mbye
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