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>Date: Tue, 29 Jun 1999 05:47:30 PDT
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>>From: "The Muslim Woman" <[log in to unmask]>
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>>Subject: New Article
>>Date: 28 Jun 1999 14:09:26 -0000
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>>The Muslim Woman - http://members.aol.com/TrueIsOne/Woman.html
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>>Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
>>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baraktuh Muslimeen
>>
>>Here is the newest article on The Muslim Woman.
>>
>>===================================================
>>
>>WOMEN VISITNG THE GRAVES
>>
>>First I wish to address that in Islam, one who dies enters the dimension
>>called the Barzakh wherein his deeds come to an end. He is UNABLE to do
>>ANYTHING for the living, though the results of his deeds may affect the
>>living and continue to earn reward or punishment for himself. Abu
>>Hurairah (RA) reported Allah's Messenger (SAW) saying,
>>
>>"When a man dies, his (good) deeds come to an end, except three types:
>> charity of continuing benefit, knowledge beneficial to people and a
>>righteous offspring who prays for him." (Muslim)
>>
>>The recitation of Quran in graveyards is not allowed as neither the
>>Prophet (SAW) nor his companions were known to do so. Particularly since
>>the Prophet's (SAW) wife, Aisha (RA) asked him what to say when visiting
>>graveyards and he told her to give Salama (greetings of peace) and a
>>prayer but did not tell her to recite Al-Fatiha or any other chapter from
>>the Quran. (Naasir ad-Deen al-Albanee, Ahkaam al-Janaa'iz). The text of
>>the Du'a is as follows:
>>
>>"As-Salaamu 'alla Ahlid-Diyaari minal-Mu'mineen wal-Muslimeen
>>Yarhamullaahu al-Mustaqdimeena minnaa wal-Musta'khireen wa Innaa in Shaa
>>Allaahu bikum Laahiqoon." (Sahih Muslim)
>>
>>(Peace be upon the Believers and Muslims among the inhabitants of these
>>dwellings. May Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us, and
>>those following us. And we shall-Allah willing- be joining you.)
>>
>>Abu Hurairah (RA) also reported that the Prophet (SAW) had said,
>>
>>"Do not make your houses graveyards, for verily Satan flees from the house
>>in which Surah al-Baqarah is read." (Sahih Muslim)
>>
>>This narration and other like it imply that the Quran is not to be read in
>>graveyards. Quranic recitation is encouraged in the house and making it
>>like a graveyard, in which no recitation should take place, is forbidden.
>>As for the recitation of Surah Yaseen, there is no narration concerning
>>graveyards and the narration about its recitation over the dying is
>>inauthentic (Da'eef).
>>
>>This portion taken from
>>The Fundamentals of Tawheed (Islamic Monotheism)
>>By Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
>>
>>-------------------------------------------------------
>>Women Visiting Graves
>>
>>It is permissible for women to visit a grave, but not recommended, because
>>of the great sin of weeping at the grave.
>>Most of the scholars hold it permissible for women to visit graves. This
>>is based on the following hadith from 'Aishah (RA),
>>
>>"What should I say to them, O Messenger of Allah (SAW) when visiting
>>graves?" As mentioned above Abdallah ibn Abi Mulaikah (RA) is also
>>reported to have said, "Once 'Aishah (RA) returned after visiting the
>>graveyard. I asked, 'O Mother of the Believers, where have you been?' She
>>said: 'I went out to visit the grave of my brother Abd ar-Rahman.' I asked
>>her: 'Didn't the Messenger of Allah (SAW) prohibit visiting graves?' She
>>said, 'Yes, he did forbid visiting graves during the early days, but later
>>on he ordered us to visit them'." (This is reported by Al-Hakim and
>>Al-Baihaqi, who also remarked that this hadith was narrated only by Bistam
>>bin Muslim al-Basri. Adh-Dhahabi said that it is a sound hadith)
>>
>>Anas (RA) reported:
>>
>>"The Prophet (SAW) saw a woman crying by the grave of her son, and said to
>>her, 'Fear Allah, and be patient.' She replied, 'What do you care about my
>>tragedy?' When he went away, someone told her, 'Indeed, that was the
>>Messenger of Allah (SAW). ' The woman felt extremely sorry and she
>>immediately went to the Prophet's house, where she did not find any
>>guards. She called out: 'O Messenger of Allah! I did not recognize you.'
>>The Prophet (SAW) said, 'Verily patience is needed at the time of the
>>first affiction'.'' (Bukhari and Muslim)
>>
>>This supports the argument in favor of the permissibility of women
>>visiting graves, for the Prophet (SAW) saw her at the grave and did not
>>show his disapproval of it.
>>
>>The purpose of visiting graves is to remember the Hereafter, which is
>>something that both men and women need. Men are by no means more in need
>>of this reminder than women. Some scholars disliked it for women to visit
>>graves as they are less patient and too emotional. The Prophet (SAW) said,
>>
>>"May Allah curse the women who are frequent visitors of the graves."
>>(Reported by Ahmad, Ibn Majah, and Tirmidhi, who said that it is a sound
>>hadith)
>>
>>Al-Qurtubi said: "The curse mentioned in this hadith applies only to those
>>women who visit graves frequently. The reason for this curse lies perhaps
>>in the fact that it involves infringement of the rights of the husband,
>>and leads to adornment and exhibition of their beauty to strangers, and
>>shouting, yelling, and other similar things." It may be said that, "If no
>>such harm is feared from women visiting graves, then there is no valid
>>reason for preventing them from visiting graves, for indeed remembrance of
>>death is something that both men and women equally need." Commenting on
>>Al-Qurtubi's view, Ash-Shawkani said, "This statement may form the basis
>>for reconciling apparently contradictory hadith."
>>
>>---------------------------------
>>
>>MOURNING FOR THE HUSBAND
>>
>>Wife is allowed to mourn for husband for four months and ten days
>>Narrated Zainab bint Abi Salama (RA):
>>
>>"When the news of the death of Abu Sufyan reached from Sham, Um Habiba on
>>the third day, asked for a yellow perfume and scented her cheeks and
>>forearms and said, "No doubt, I would not have been in need of this, had I
>>not heard the Prophet saying: 'It is not legal for a woman who believes in
>>Allah and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days for any dead
>>person except her husband, for whom she should mourn for four months and
>>ten days.' " (Bukhari)
>>
>>==============================
>>Wailing (Excessive Crying)
>>
>>Crying for extended periods of times, and/or crying where the voice is
>>very loud, is haram.
>>
>>The Prophet (SAW) said,
>>
>>"The deceased who is wailed over is tortured for that wailing." (Bukhari)
>>
>>The Prophet (SAW) said,
>>
>>"He who slaps the cheeks, tears the clothes and follows the traditions of
>>the Days of Ignorance is not from us." (Bukhari)
>>
>>===================
>>Crying in the Heart During Death Without Voice
>>
>>The Prophet (SAW) shed tears, but did NOT cry out in a loud voice.
>>We went with Allah's Apostle (SAW) to the blacksmith Abu Saif, and he was
>>the husband of the wet-nurse of Ibrahim (the son of the Prophet). Allah's
>>Apostle (SAW) took Ibrahim and kissed him and smelled him and later we
>>entered Abu Saif's house and at that time Ibrahim was in his last breaths,
>>and the eyes of Allah's Apostle (SAW) started shedding tears. 'Abdur
>>Rahman bin 'Auf said, "O Allah's Apostle, even you are weeping!" He said,
>>"O Ibn 'Auf, this is mercy." Then he wept more and said, "The eyes are
>>shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what
>>pleases our Lord, O Ibrahim! Indeed we are grieved by your separation."
>>(Bukhari)
>>
>>==========================
>>Speaking About the Deceased
>>
>>There is punishment to the deceased when you speak ill off them at the
>>time of the funeral. This does NOT mean that the deceased person hears
>>you speaking ill or well of them (as mentioned above).
>>Narrated Abu Al Aswad (RA),
>>
>>"I came to Medina when an epidemic had broken out. While I was sitting
>>with 'Umar bin Al-Khattab a funeral procession passed by and the people
>>praised the deceased. 'Umar said, "It has been affirmed to him." And
>>another funeral procession passed by and the people praised the deceased.
>>'Umar said, "It has been affirmed to him." A third (funeral procession)
>>passed by and the people spoke badly of the deceased. He said, "It has
>>been affirmed to him." I (Abu Al-Aswad) asked, "O chief of the believers!
>>What has been affirmed?" He replied, "I said the same as the Prophet had
>>said, that is: if four persons testify the piety of a Muslim, Allah will
>>grant him Paradise." We asked, "If three persons testify his piety?" He
>>[the Prophet (SAW)] replied, "Even three." Then we asked, "If two?" He
>>replied, "Even two." We did not ask him regarding one witness. (Bukhari)
>>Narrated Anas bin Malik (RA),
>>
>>"A funeral procession passed and the people praised the deceased. The
>>Prophet (SAW) said, "It has been affirmed to him." Then another funeral
>>procession passed and the people spoke badly of the deceased. The Prophet
>>said, "It has been affirmed to him". 'Umar bin Al-Khattab asked [Allah's
>>Apostle (SAW)], "What has been affirmed?" He replied, "You praised this,
>>so Paradise has been affirmed to him; and you spoke badly of this, so Hell
>>has been affirmed to him. You people are Allah's witnesses on earth."
>>(Bukhari)
>>
>>=============================
>>General Information About Funerals
>>
>>Abu Hurairah (RA) said, "Make your funerals speedy, for it is only good
>>that you are advancing him towards, or evil that you are taking off your
>>necks." (Muwatta)
>>
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