Do Not Reciprocate


Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “If somebody
reproaches you and makes you feel ashamed of any of your defects, do
not make him feel ashamed of any of his defects.” [Abu Daud]

Usually, when somebody points out one of our shortcomings, we
immediately become defensive and start finding faults with them. But
the advice of our beloved Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam),
is that we should listen quietly and evaluate what we are being told.
If there is something we can improve about ourselves, it is only to
our own advantage to do so. If the criticism is unjustified, then we
are rewarded for our patience and good behaviour in not retaliating.
The angels will take care of defending our honour. Starting a counter
attack opens the door for Shaytaan to come in and take over.

Once Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddiq (radi Allahu anhu) was sitting with the
Prophet (sal allahu alaihi wa sallam) when a man came and started to
abuse Hazrat Abu Bakr. Hazrat Abu Bakr remained silent. Finally, he
started to speak in his defence. At this point the Prophet (sal Allahu
alaihi wa sallam) got up and left. Hazrat Abu Bakr immediately went
after him and inquired if he had done something wrong. Rasul Allah
replied that as long as he had been silent, angels had been speaking
on his behalf, but when he started to respond, the devil came and sat
down next to him. As the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) could
not remain seated where the devil was sitting, he left.

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