NORMALLY, I WOULD NOT HAVE SENT THIS MESSAGE PUBLICLY. BUT SINCE EVERYBODY READ HADDY'S MESSAGE, I FEEL THAT IT IS ONLY FAIR FOR THEM TO READ WHAT I REPLY. AND I SHALL VOW THAT THIS WILL BE THE ONLY TIME THAT I WILL SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THIS ISSUE ON THIS FORUM, FOR THERE ARE BETTER AND MORE IMPORTANT THINGS FOR US TO TALK ABOUT. Haddy,You know, even before I read this message, I was told about it. And I was not surprised by the vulgarity of your message because you in general speak in nothing but vulgar terms. And that is O.K. if that is who you are. You are entitled to speak and carry yourself in whatever way you want to. But the problem arises when you begin to infringe on the privacy of others. I do understand that you meant it in jest, and that it was meant for my ears only. But this mistake you just made, not only infringed upon my privacy, but it also infringed on Abda's as well. And you know that Abda does not have that kind of a relationship with you, or for that matter with anyone. And he is not a vulgar person or one who would ever speak to anyone including me, his girlfriend, with such vulgarity. I have come to accept you and your choice of speech, because I know that that's just you and I know that you are only jesting. Because I know you know nothing about me concerning such issues. So I usually just ignore you when you say stuff like that or even laugh it off. But my dear sister, lets analyze the the negative impact that your message could have. First of all, this message has been sent world wide via the Gambia "L". Probably by tomorrow, my mum will be told about it and it is a possibility that it might circulate most of Gambia before the end of the week. So that means my uncles, my aunts, my cousins,my sisters, brothers, friends, grandmother and grand father, all of whom people that I respect and who return such respect to me, are likely to hear about it. And next time someone wants to remember who I am, it is likely that they will say, "Oh that's the girl who was called a .... on the Gambia-L" And even worst,lets consider Abda's case. Abda who just by his nature and the way in which he treats people, generally attains respect from all. Abda who is looked up to with so much respect by his little brothers and sisters and for that matter, his parents, and older relatives, friends and by me. Abda who never says a bad word if he can help it. And you, Haddy Njie, sent such vulgarity concerning him around the world. My sister, it is time to re-consider some of your actions. Even in private, you might consider them as jests, but is everyone really amused by them? All this being said, I THINK THE BEST THING WOULD BE FOR YOU TO WRITE ANOTHER E-MAIL APOLOGIZING TO US, ESPECIALLY TO ABDA. AND RE-POST IT ON THE GAMBIA-L FOR ALL, WHO SAW YOUR ORIGINAL MESSAGE, TO SEE. THIS WAY, WE CAN MOVE FORWARD AND FORGET THIS HORRIBLE MISTAKE. AND I KNOW THAT YOU CAN REFUSE TO DO SO AND IF YOU DO, I WOULD NOT UTTER A WORD ABOUT IT. BUT IN THE FUTURE I WILL KNOW HOW TO BEST INTERACT WITH YOU. EITHER WAY, THIS WILL BE THE LAST TIME I WILL WRITE ANYTHING CONCERNING THIS ISSUE ON THE "L". DO ENJOY YOUR EVENING, MY DEAR! I Simply Remain Sigga M. Jagne A Gambian Citizen ===== "NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION" ALSO "NOTHING IS UNACHIEVABLE, THE ONLY QUESTION IS, WHETHER ONE IS WILLING TO DO WHAT IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE WHAT IS DESIRED" ===== "NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION" ALSO "NOTHING IS UNACHIEVABLE, THE ONLY QUESTION IS, WHETHER ONE IS WILLING TO DO WHAT IT TAKES TO ACHIEVE WHAT IS DESIRED" __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Get Yahoo! Mail – Free email you can access from anywhere! http://mail.yahoo.com/ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- To unsubscribe/subscribe or view archives of postings, go to the Gambia-L Web interface at: http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/archives/gambia-l.html ----------------------------------------------------------------------------