Suntou, You like stories don't you? I thought you were busy with your studies. If you have taken up a position as marriage counsellor, we are not interested. Now to the extent your story is accurate and because you find it valuable to share it with us, I have one problem with your actions. Listen carefully. As the record keeper of an organisation, you have a fiduciary responsibility to maintain the integrity of the records and the privacy of the members of your organisation. 1. You ought not tell us what information you have about anyone. 2. You ought not tell us what the nature of your records are. 3. You should not have given information of any member of your organisation to anyone UNLESS they have committed a crime against other and the provision of such information is to law enforcement in their efforts to solve the crime and render justice. 4. In your storied case, you should not have given the lady's number to this knucklehead even if he flipped sommersaults. 5. I don't wanna hear what you think the Qur'an says about your behaviour. I already know what the Qur'an says. You should now apologise to this lady profusely, and to the extent the problem gets out of hand, you have a culpable part to play in it. Now that you have committed a cardinal sin, what you should do to diffuse the tension is to report the harassment of this lady to authorities in her jurisdiction and her husband in order that she may regain part of her security and reassurance. She has been violated, your informing her that you gave her phone number to someone (AFTER THE FACT) is no act of consideration. You had breached the trust of the lady and indeed of the organisation. You should now return the organisation's records and relieve yourself of the custodial and fiduciary responsibility. Some acts do not deserve a second chance. Suntou, do you play the Kora???? Masoud. MQJGDT. Darbo. Al Mu'Umin. Just when I think you're listening to my counsel, you go off the deep end. New Gambians! I take no prisoners. Innahu huwa yubdi'U Wayu Ead, wa huwal Khafoorul wadood. Thul arshil majeed, fa-Aaalun Lima Ureed. Hal Ataika hadeesul khasiah, wajoo-hun yawma-ithin Naa-emah. Lisa'Ayihaa raadiya............. Don't tell us to be careful of your errors and omissions. We would not do what you did. Let us cleanse ourselves before we attempt to counsel others in matters of life. In a message dated 2/10/2008 6:02:16 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, [log in to unmask] writes: i was disappointed yesterday after i received a complaint from a Gambian brother in our city. The issue involved a married sister whose husband is in the Gambia whilst she is in England. I am the record keeper of the Gambia association we have in the city. i have all the contact details of every single member man or woman. Last month, a brother LT ,in his forties called me to get a number of the married sister. remember here this brother is living with his wife in our city as well. he requested me to pass the phone number of the sister to him. i enquire as to why he need the phone number? his answer was ,well he and the sister share the same family name and that he want them to be brother and sister. i was hesitant to pass the number. he enquire whether i don 't trust him having the number? i said it is not about that but because i shouldn't pass on any body's information without their prior approvals. he said sadly ,''so now there is no trust even in family ties?'' i said OK, let me hand you the number and i will contact her to tell her about your request. i gave him the number. i later called the lady to inform her about the issue.she was happy that some one wish to have a family relation with her which is rare she said. that was the last time i have any thing to do with the situation. yesterday afternoon whilst i was having my rest,my mobile phone rang. an older Gambian brother was on the phone his name is kk. me and kk talk regularly about Gambian issues. but this time it is not the usual discussions.he was reporting LT the KOTOKE who took the number from me. LT is pestering this lady .he wanted them to have an affair. the lady said she ''tried every thing to discourage the LT politely but he couldn't stop.'' from being brother and sister to being lovers. how sad!! this is the same kotoke who took the number from me ,giving the most honourable reason. i was fooled by a bad koteke. the lady said that LT is the second Gambian brother pestering her. the other one is a marabout TJ who is married to an Indian lady. the sad thing is ,both this brothers are married and living with their wife's yet they are pestering a married woman who is so honourable she decline their infidelity offers out of rest for her husband and her religion. now the pestering is so bad the sister cannot hide the matter any more. i was called to discuss ways in stopping the nuance pestering by the two bad behave brothers (LT and TJ) . our plan was to tell the sister ,if any one of this fools approach you ,tell them you will call the police and that she will inform me and the caller KK to take up the issue. why should this married men be following a respectable Gambian sister who frankly told them that she is married and that she is not interested in adultery.yet this stupid fools cannot leave her alone. the sister advice the KK who called me not to discuss the matter with this LT and TJ ,she said ''they may spoil her name and reputation. and their wife's may attack her''. i was shocked and sad at the behaviour of this grown ash koteke's who cannot learn to behave even after the ripe age of 41. when will such men grow up? be careful guys .some explanations are only a smoke screen. i can bring up the Islamic injunctions here but i don't wish to bore any one. いいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいい To unsubscribe/subscribe or view archives of postings, go to the Gambia-L Web interface at: http://listserv.icors.org/archives/gambia-l.html To Search in the Gambia-L archives, go to: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?S1=gambia-l To contact the List Management, please send an e-mail to: [log in to unmask] いいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいい **************Biggest Grammy Award surprises of all time on AOL Music. 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