Firstly Brother man, I must thank you for the long conversation yesterday. However, you cannot read a book by it's cover to avoid speculation of what is written inside but you can judge a book by the cover hence you are not interested to know what the inside story reads. 
 
Again, as I said yesterday, The charity is not yet started but two of the group participants are on the ground as I write but I never count my chicken before they hatch thus, yet, optimistic to the productivity. 
 
Haruna, I could see you are not following the saying which goes like; "If a donkey kicks you and you hit back policy ----------.  Human being needs patience to achieve our goals because it was patience that build this world we are living on, if, for-example, God is not patient with human-being, will the world be to this Length? after all what humans are doing to His world. Think about that my buddy man Haruna. 
 
Fancy what you feel yourself, when been judged by others? what comes to your mind? like when somebody tells you that you are an idiot (again don't get me wrong is an example) as well as your choice of describing others which I have no problem with as you are who you are and will not judge you on that ground but love you unconditionally as you are because the more I try to change that part of you the more I am telling you to hold hold on it, Then again, how would I know, if you are in bad times by using those impolite terms or tone of description. 
 
Thus my English is not as good as yours but correct me upon my mistakes; Idiot is to my understanding; someone who knows nothing right, even though, is never a truth hence every body knows at least something the other don't. therefore, to some level it should not be an insult because idiotic phrase conditionally apply to us all one way or the other hence we are imperfect and human. The same thing should be apply to the Taxi driver and the shop attendance "imperfect beings". following where I am coming from Mr. Darbo Jula sankaranka? Remember it is a conversation not a fight laugh, hell if you want to fight well we can also make advertisement in all the United State Radio and television because she is bigger than Finland and more populated for this kind of fight to take place because I love money and to be paid. 
Yours brother   
Edi

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From: Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]>
Subject: Re: Judge not.
To: [log in to unmask]
Date: Sunday, 18 January, 2009, 10:49 AM




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I enjoyed speaking with you yesterday Mams. I also admire your efforts in charity toward less fortunate Gambians. Ok that's it. That's all the love I can give you for now.
 
About this article below. I see someone is asking another Not to Judge another. And then they go on listing the problems they may have that could preclude judgement. Does anyone wonder whether the one who is doing the judging has problems too?? Besides if a shopkeeper shows me attitude, I'll judge him/her an idiot. And I may friggin boycot the shop. If a Taxi driver is sullen and uncommunicative, chances are he may deliver your guests to the wrong town. You know what I mean? I don't care what this guy is saying down here, but think hard about the person who asks you not to judge him/her. You see what I mean don't you Mams? Don't Judge a book by its cover, but don't read a book by its friggin cover.
 
Easy Mams. Haruna.
 


 



Date: Sat, 17 Jan 2009 22:36:45 +0000
From: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Judge not.
To: [log in to unmask]








I try not to judge people.. because when I judge people, I limit my view of them. Instead, I look for the good in people and do my best to lift them up when they are down.

IF you judge people, you don't have time to love them. So said Mother Teresa.

I think the worst aspect of judging others in our life is that when we pass that judgment we are creating limitation. We are limiting or narrowing a person down to our perception of them at a certain point in time.

We are refusing to see them in a wider context... often missing the light that is contained within them which is the same for us too.

We might judge a shop assistant for not smiling at us and being off hand.
But we do not know what is going on in that person's life... may be she had just learned that her mother had been taken ill, or she had just broken up from her boyfriend.
We might judge a taxi driver for being sullen and uncommunicative

But we do not know what is going on in his life... may be he has just learned that his child has cancer.
All through our lives we can make these judgments.  And when we do so we limit ourselves and miss the truth of that individual or the ability to look beyond what might be our first impression. There is an old saying that you cannot judge a book by its cover.
It could not be more true of human beings.

If we have stored up a well of love within our own hearts... and we in this group are finding ways to do this for ourselves.. then we have a well of resourceful love that can be poured out to our "quiet" shop assistant or moody taxi driver. Or it could be a down hearted friend, or withdrawn work mate.

And we can change the day for that down at heel person. Yes, we can put a smile on that person's face rather than go away feeling miserable and blaming that person for making us feel miserable.

Why let someone's mood bring us down? Instead why not lift that person up? Of course, if they still do not respond to our warm smile, our tender touch or kind word then it is nothing to do with us anyway... it is all about them.It just wasn't their day!

May be they will go away thinking about what we have done to make them feel better and when we see them again things might be different.. or not. Again, it is up to them. After all, we cannot control people... just help them live to the best of their potential.

So often our judgments come from ourselves...we do not like what we see in others that mirrors those aspects of ourselves that we don't like. The glum look we see in another brings us discomfort because we do not like it when we put on a glum face.

Instead let's give that person a little love...just what we need to do for ourselves when we feel in need of a little love. If the smiling does not work and the words just do not come then try psychically sending love.. from our mind to theirs without them even consciously knowing it. We feel better... and they receive it too! Let us focus on the spark of good that burns in all of us.

So dear and special friend.. I wish you a super Saturday with all the joy and happiness in the world... Please do open your heart... share what is going on for you.. and know how much I love you for being in this group and in the world at this time.
mick



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