|
Firstly Brother man, I must thank you for the long conversation yesterday.]
The pleasure is all mine. We share many common experiences.
[However, you cannot read a book by it's cover to avoid speculation of what is written inside but you can judge a book by the cover hence you are not interested to know what the inside story reads.] Mams.
I understand what you are saying Mams. I used to also believe this old adage because when my English teacher first shared it with me, I thought it sounded cute and powerful and my friends always invoked it. It is a very cunning remark and I considered it for several years. I came out with the impression that we must be careful about common sayings like this if we want to live a rich and productive life. I want to share with you that the teacher who first shared this with me also shared with me that he was an evangelist and an author. So I enquired "why do book shops not let you read the books in the store before you purchase it?" Mams you know you shared with me that your addiction to money is simply to be able to pay bills; rent, utilities, etc. and so you were adamant about exchanging your summarizing services with money. Let me ask you this question: Do you go to the library in Suomi? (:>)))! We understand also that time is currency (like money), and we should manage its use to the best of our abilities so that each minute we spend, yields more value for us than the organic minute is worth to us. Next time an author or evangelist tells you not to judge a book by its cover, tell them to summarize the book and fit the summary on the front and back covers. Tell them that will help you manage your life better if they wish you to spend your time reading the book. You notice that whatever you need to read to educate yourself (TO JUDGE), you search for the title by abstracts and excerpts and referral from family, friends, etc. That is the due-diligence of the author and referree with due regard to the value of your time. It is based on their JUDGEMENT. What I am saying Mams is that you only become aware of the book through someone else's JUDGEMENT. You have no control over another's judgement calculus, only your own. And I would advise that you consider the values of the natural senses of Sight, Audition, sensation, smell, taste. The adage (Don't judge a book by its cover) was not meant for its literal meaning and it is severely burdened.
There are areas where it applies but even then, only to an extent. For example, it is not wise to judge a child of minor age or nature (plants, animals, water, air, land, etc.) without proper investigation (pre-cursor to YOUR JUDGEMENT CALCULUS). WIthout going too much into anecdotes and process, I want to share with you that it is the INVESTIGATIVE aspect of life that the adage was originally addressing. That inquiry does take into account the investigator's experiences, disposition, authority, and defaults. That is what I was sharing with you. The caution that we must have a discerning attitude toward DON'T JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER. The examples you shared with us about the personal problems of shopkeepers and Taxidrivers seemed to be indifferent to the referee's own condition. You will agree with me that whatever your "victims" were going through (personally), the shopper and taxi rider could have been going through that ten-fold. What the referree is doing is to patronize the shopkeeper and taxidriver perhaps with the hope of ameliorating their conditions. What do you think? You know that is why in all cultures, there is a period of mourning and reflection prescribed for the shopkeeper and taxidriver. In other words, instead of taking their frustrations out on their patron, (cutting the hand that feeds you) (cutting your throat to spite your face) etc., what if the "victims" shared their condition with their patron and listened to his/her condition before acting out theirs on him/her. I think you will consider what I'm sharing a bit more.
[Again, as I said yesterday, The charity is not yet started but two of the group participants are on the ground as I write but I never count my chicken before they hatch thus, yet, optimistic to the productivity.] Mams.
Yes indeed. I understood the status of your efforts. I thought I should offer encouragement to help it along. [Count your chickens before your eggs hatch]. New Gambians. You like these sound bites don't you? Mr. Mahoney must have had quite an impression on you. Did you ever pause to suppose that you will not have chickens to count before your eggs are hatched??? And why would you take this tone with someone who affords you du courage? And I have an idea for you: The project you contemplate, is honourable and valuable. Perhaps, just perhaps, sharing it with our community here, is the missing link (synergies) that could propel it to maturation. It will have been presumptuous of me to share more details that is why I stopped short of that. JUDGEMENT. I'm gonna have to fly over there and tie you up. Do you live in Helsinki or Suomi in Finland? (:>)))
[Haruna, I could see you are not following the saying which goes like; "If a donkey kicks you and you hit back policy ----------.] Mams.
Oh brother. I wanna know why a donkey, minding his/her own business, uninterrupted by me, would consider seeking Haruna out to kick? If such a donkey kicks me, I want you to know I'll not only kick his arse, I'll feed it to Yahya's crocodiles in Kanilai. What???? What donkey has the nerves to kick yours truly?
[Human being needs patience to achieve our goals] Mams.
Human beings need patience sometimes to achieve some of their goals. That reminds me of the pilot chelsey (his full name escapes me) who had 20 seconds of patience to land the airbus beautifully on the hudson thereby saving himself and 154 other human beings. I'd be scared to be piloted by yew Mams. While you're engaging in patient philosophies, the sun might freeze on us. The trick is to use the adages with consideration and judgement my good friend.
[because it was patience that build this world we are living on,] Mams.
WHo told you that??????
[if, for-example, God is not patient with human-being, will the world be to this Length?] Mams.
I will have you know that what you consider as divine patience with man, is the most complex and expeditious decision and action matrix the human mind may never fathom. I strongly advise you unlearn all these adages and soundbites and Re-learn them with the requisite valves (considerations). You seem to me a most contemporary Gambian but you scare me right about now.
[after all what humans are doing to His world.] Mams.
Don't worry too much about what other humans are doing to God's world. I want you to concentrate on what you are doing to God's world and make sure it is good. The other humans will gain inspiration from you.
[Think about that my buddy man Haruna.] Mams.
YOU think about that. What another human is doing to God's world could be good for God you know. Even as another is doing bad to God's world. I want you to be the former so you can afford me good inspiration as my friend.
[Fancy what you feel yourself, when been judged by others?] Mams.
You worry about the wrong thing Mams. I want you to know that Haruna cannot control the judgement matrix of other. So instead of worrying about that, I try to afford the requisite inspiration that is inevitably part of their decision/judgement matrices. I think we're getting somewhere.
[what comes to your mind?] Mams.
Nothing at the moment. I am concerned about your time management though. I do know what you're saying though Mams but I want you to be a solver of problems and attenuator of value to the human world. Remember your Prosperity Matrix???
[like when somebody tells you that you are an idiot (again don't get me wrong is an example) as well as your choice of describing others which I have no problem with as you are who you are and will not judge you on that ground but love you unconditionally as you are because the more I try to change that part of you the more I am telling you to hold hold on it, Then again, how would I know, if you are in bad times by using those impolite terms or tone of description.] Mams.
Mams, are you OK? If it will make you feel better, I want you to know you can call me idiot anytime you feel. All I ask of you is that you share with me the reason you call me an idiot. That way I can either be a better idiot or a more sanguine idiot. As you already know, idiocy is a multifaceted and diffused trait and it could be intractable sometimes.
[Thus my English is not as good as yours but correct me upon my mistakes; Idiot is to my understanding; someone who knows nothing right, even though, is never a truth hence every body knows at least something the other don't.] Mams.
I see part of your problem Mams. Wow!!! Is this your understanding of an idiot? You know colonial schooling does not equal education. I am a bit disturbed. Are you sure you are not confusing an idiot with an ignoramus? Jesus friggin Christ, Mams. An Idiot, on the contrary, is presumed to be one of sound mind and body and is inherently intelligent like the non-idiot. The problem is that the idiot wastes those resources. It is in the actions and words that you discern idiocy.
[therefore, to some level it should not be an insult because idiotic phrase conditionally apply to us all one way or the other hence we are imperfect and human.] Mams.
Mams, if you really believe what you just said here, why then would you consider "idiot" to be an insult. Becuase you admit each of us might harbor idiotic strain variously, I think we should use the label to become more sanguine. If we hide our problems, we may continue to wantonly infringe upon our fellows without any hope of salvation.
[The same thing should be apply to the Taxi driver and the shop attendance "imperfect beings".] Mams.
What does the taxi-driver or shop attendant's problems have to do with their patron? Why make your benefactor miserable even as you deal with your own misgivings??? What is to say that it is not that precise attitude that inured the shopkeeper and taxidriver the wrath of GOD. Do you understand what I'm saying??? I will share another adage with you: Misery Loves Company, beware the temptation.
[following where I am coming from Mr. Darbo Jula sankaranka?] Mams.
Indeed Sidibeh Sankaray.
[Remember it is a conversation not a fight laugh, hell if you want to fight well we can also make advertisement in all the United State Radio and television because she is bigger than Finland and more populated for this kind of fight to take place because I love money and to be paid. Yours brother Edi]. Mams.
I'm a lover, not a fighter Mams. Where have I heard that before??? ANyway, I cherish conversations like this Mams, especially with friends and family. This is how we can share experiences and educate each other. I learned a lot about you and I hope you learned a lot about me too. It will have been nicer if we were living together but I'll settle for this given our distance. You need to reconsider your addiction to money. You wanna hear a story about money? Lemme know Lemme know.
From: Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> |
To Search in the Gambia-L archives, go to: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?S1=gambia-l To contact the List Management, please send an e-mail to: [log in to unmask] いいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいいい