So True and valuable advice Yaa Bilal. I have declined many a prospective bride and friend for this. I think Allah is with me. Since the activity is so prevalent, I have built mechanisms in my own life that automatically gives notice that I have no patience for such slander and libel. Thank you Bilal for these and those reflections. I must add however that this advice does not take umbrage at reporting a crime, criminal conduct, or criminal threats. We must still report those but to law enforcement. Haruna. -----Original Message----- From: Edi Jah <[log in to unmask]> To: [log in to unmask] Sent: Fri, 12 Jun 2009 7:10 pm Subject: Fwd: Daily Hadith - You Know What She Said!... You Know What She Said!... asul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wasallam) said: “He who stirs enmity mong people, by quoting their words to each other, will not enter aradise.” [Bukhari] Unfortunately, this is a common social evil these days. Rather than end relations among people, Shaytaan has us excited about carrying ales to each other. “You won’t believe what he did!...Can you imagine hat she said?...” Refuse to listen to what other people have said or done. It is ackbiting, just to hear it. If what you are being told about is not rue, it is an even bigger sin, both for the person telling it and the erson listening to it. If you tell yourself not to believe everything ou hear, your heart will nevertheless be tainted by it. That is why he Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa salla m) told his companions not to ay things about each other to him, since he didn't want to meet them ith disquiet in his heart. If Rasul Allah's feelings for people had he possibility of getting soured by hearing tales about them, despite is being rehmat-ul-lil-alameen, then we are certainly not above being orrupted by listening to tales. The people who carry tales from one person to another, do it in the uise of well wishers. First they sympathize with one party. Then they ake what they have gleaned to other people and sow discord, ruining elations between people, by repeating things. A person who behaves in uch a manner is being two faced. Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi asallam) said: “You find that among the worst people is someone who s two-faced, showing one face to some and another face to others.” Bukhari] ¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤ o unsubscribe/subscribe or view archives of postings, go to the Gambia-L Web nterface t: http://listserv.icors.org/archives/gambia-l.html To Search in the Gambia-L archives, go to: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?S1=gambia-l o contact the List Management, please send an e-mail to: [log in to unmask] ¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤ ¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤¤ To unsubscribe/subscribe or view archives of postings, go to the Gambia-L Web interface at: http://listserv.icors.org/archives/gambia-l.html To Search in the Gambia-L archives, go to: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?S1=gambia-l To contact the List Management, please send an e-mail to: [log in to unmask]