You're very funny when you wanna be Mams. I think all things considered, I like you. I'm afraid though your search for a wife, dekandor, muso, etc. has inauspiciously morphed into a search for domestic help. Please reconsider. I love you too much to see you fail at your fishing expeditions. [-----Original Message----- From: Edie Sidibeh [log in to unmask] To: [log in to unmask] Sent: Fri, Jul 17, 2009 6:24 am Subject: Re: The self Hello again Haruiner, I will call you Haruiner and the more you are protesting, the more you will encourage me to continue calling you Haruiner.] Mams. OK I will not protest anymore. But it doesn't mean I like it or condone it. And I wanna have to remind you of that. Even when I upset you again. [These are the reasons why i insisted you having a muso Jabarr or dekandor:] Mams. I'm listening. [If you know how to cook, why asking my help?] Mams. I don't know how to cook Suppu Kanja. This will be my first attempt at it. The kids say they like it. [must of us (men); especially from the Gambia were I can say for certain, that, they are hardly found in the home kitchens.] Mams. Snap out of it Mams. You're not in Gambia now. When you go back you can do as Gambians do. To say you're still daydreaming in Suomi is incomprehensible. [Therefore living outside those environments, one have two choices; to learn the art of cooking or else secure a wife who can,] Mams. Why are you restricting yourself to the two extreme choices Mams? Why can't you learn the art of cooking and secure a wife who can cook???? Why do you limit yourself so?? [who can fulfil that home tasks] Mams. What home tasks??? Ok stop Mams stop. You're making me dizzy like I make Father Mose with my ramblings. [preferably some African wives who will reasonably retain the culture] Mams. You're looking for an African wife who can retain Suomi culture????? I don't understand. How do you know they'd want to live in Suomi and combine Suomi culture with Gambian culture. I was gonna send you to my matchmakers but you will be a difficult client. [before the man is educated to adjust his behaviour in family life] Mams. Wait a minute. So you want to be educated to behave better but you want your wife to be kitchen master. This must mean you want a wife who is already educated and well-adjusted. Edumacated how? You will be a difficult client. I need to speak with Chumbaan right now. [hence they are masters of home kitchen while we men are sitting in the bantabas and a disgrace seeing the family man with a wife in the home kitchen] Mams. You don't do a good job of selling yourself. Do you not know courtship requires an elaborate marketing plan to borrow from our friend Mr. T? Instead of saying you sit at the bantaba being a disgrace to your family, why don't you tell the prospective wife that you will take turns resting for each other in the comfortable hammock on the Fjord with her favourite drink? You African men are wasting your divine endowments. You big black Sererr. [The spices fish meat or whatever you prefer, I supposed, should be put into the pot to be cooked with the okra and palm oil if you have not yet finish the cooking by now] Mams. Beautiful Mams. So to recap: Place palm oil, okra, meat/fish/poultry in a pot. add spices as you desire. When does water feature in this or is it used at all? Is there any preferable sequence for adding ingredients and how long should I cook what? [be careful because it can be burn whiles on the stove for this long haha.] Mams. Very funny. How long should I cook and at what temperature? Thanx Mams. I look forward to more info. Bilal, Dukureh, and Evian please feel free to assist. I hear Niamorkono is an old seaman, maybe he can help here. No Suntou, we don't want any halal meat. Thank-U-ver-much! Haruna. love ya Edie --- On Tue, 14/7/09, Haroun Darbo <[log in to unmask]> wrote: From: Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> Subject: Re: The self To: [log in to unmask] Date: Tuesday, 14 July, 2009, 2:27 AM [In a message dated 7/13/2009 11:19:59 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, [log in to unmask] writes: Aiyai Haruiner, It is high time to get yourself (jabar or dekandor), (muso or senyo).] Mams.  Don't call me Haruiner. Just curious. WHy is it high time to get a jabar/dekandor/muso/siinyo? I don't understand?  [Or else your friends might have wife around your place of residence who are reliable ass istance to your request.] Mams.  My neighbours and friends' wives don't cook. These idiots all eat out. Hell they ask me how to do a friggin barbecue on account of my reknown prowess in that area. When you kill a deer in the woods, you must leave it hung off a tree for a day to get the wild out. That makes for better barbecue. Forget the cows and pigs..  [I am a bachelor like you Haruiner laugh.] Mams.  Hey as long as you are a happy and well-grounded bachelor. I keep telling you to get away from the idea that a wife is a substitute for a cook. You need to learn how to cook so you can help your wife cook and take care of the kids if you intend to have any. I think it is high time you purchase my "Matrimonial Bliss Companion". It is 5Euros for those of you in Suomi. All proceeds will go to The GDP.  [However, just put palm oil in a pot and boil it with okra aha ready to eat hope that helps! at least I tried love ya. Edi] Mams.  Well you're right. At least you tried. That's more than I can say for Bilal and Evian. So what am I supposed to do about spices and meats/fish/poultry? You have to always keep an eye on balanced diet. Although the way we cook our foods in Kambia any balanced diet just becomes a load of listless detritus. So I will consider spices and a side order of fresh fruits and veggies. ANy more ideas? what is soluble in palm oil? Palm oil scares me!! Does it have to be r ed???? Or are the friggin Njagos bypassing a bleaching step. These are strange people Njagos. Haruna. Thanx anyway Mams. I wonder if Bilal is a Njago???  --- On Mon, 13/7/09, Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> wrote: From: Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> Subject: Re: The self To: [log in to unmask] Date: Monday, 13 July, 2009, 3:43 AM Hallo Mams! I was trying to cook my first suppu kanja. ANy ideas? Haruna. -----Original Message----- From: Edie Sidibeh <edetter2002@YAHOO..CO.UK> To: [log in to unmask] Sent: Sun, Jul 12, 2009 11:49 am Subject: Re: The self Can you allow yourself to bask in the light of Self-Love and Self-Acceptance? Can you see and accept both your strengths and your flaws? Can you find a way to break from being a "victim" of your challenges and your lessons? Life would be easy if the answers to these questions were "Yes." For most of us, we are in the struggle called "living" and can not find the time and energy to even ask these questions, let alone, develop the answers. These are questions that people have asked and struggled to answer since the first humans had enough consciousness to realize that they were more than just animals attempting to survive in a difficult, dangerous world. The lessons of consciousness that we historically struggle with are often ones like: What is my purpose? or Why am I alive? or Is there a God? or What happens when I die? or How can I find Love? or How can I keep the faith even as the s torm of humiliation and disappointment surround me? There are no easy answers... but for each of us the process of discovery along the path to finding these answers is what our lives are all about. I believe that each one of us is connected to a higher consciousness and our goal in life is to learn from our flaws/challenges so we can get a less filtered view of this pure consciousness. We are trying to connect with the God within us and to bask in the light of unconditional love and consciousness. At some point, we must acknowledge our imperfections and find a way to accept these challenges as the lessons we have to learn. By accepting these flaws and giving up the "fight against them," we can free our energy to find a better way to our life's purpose and our goals. By giving up being a victim to our weaknesses or imperfections, we can invest our time and energy in moving more freely to the light of higher consciousness. Why is it easier to accept other people and their imperfections, than it is to accept our own? Accept and celebrate your flaws, especially if you wish to find a way to move in more positive directions. Along the way, find and celebrate the God within you. You may be surprised to find how surprisingly familiar this supreme consciousness really is. (For me, God is not a religious term. 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