>From: Momodou Mbye Jabang <[log in to unmask]> >To: [log in to unmask] >Subject: Fwd: New Article >Date: Tue, 29 Jun 1999 05:47:30 PDT > > > > >>From: "The Muslim Woman" <[log in to unmask]> >>To: List Member <[log in to unmask]> >>Subject: New Article >>Date: 28 Jun 1999 14:09:26 -0000 >> >>The Muslim Woman - http://members.aol.com/TrueIsOne/Woman.html >> >>Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem >>Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Baraktuh Muslimeen >> >>Here is the newest article on The Muslim Woman. >> >>=================================================== >> >>WOMEN VISITNG THE GRAVES >> >>First I wish to address that in Islam, one who dies enters the dimension >>called the Barzakh wherein his deeds come to an end. He is UNABLE to do >>ANYTHING for the living, though the results of his deeds may affect the >>living and continue to earn reward or punishment for himself. Abu >>Hurairah (RA) reported Allah's Messenger (SAW) saying, >> >>"When a man dies, his (good) deeds come to an end, except three types: >> charity of continuing benefit, knowledge beneficial to people and a >>righteous offspring who prays for him." (Muslim) >> >>The recitation of Quran in graveyards is not allowed as neither the >>Prophet (SAW) nor his companions were known to do so. Particularly since >>the Prophet's (SAW) wife, Aisha (RA) asked him what to say when visiting >>graveyards and he told her to give Salama (greetings of peace) and a >>prayer but did not tell her to recite Al-Fatiha or any other chapter from >>the Quran. (Naasir ad-Deen al-Albanee, Ahkaam al-Janaa'iz). The text of >>the Du'a is as follows: >> >>"As-Salaamu 'alla Ahlid-Diyaari minal-Mu'mineen wal-Muslimeen >>Yarhamullaahu al-Mustaqdimeena minnaa wal-Musta'khireen wa Innaa in Shaa >>Allaahu bikum Laahiqoon." (Sahih Muslim) >> >>(Peace be upon the Believers and Muslims among the inhabitants of these >>dwellings. May Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us, and >>those following us. And we shall-Allah willing- be joining you.) >> >>Abu Hurairah (RA) also reported that the Prophet (SAW) had said, >> >>"Do not make your houses graveyards, for verily Satan flees from the house >>in which Surah al-Baqarah is read." (Sahih Muslim) >> >>This narration and other like it imply that the Quran is not to be read in >>graveyards. Quranic recitation is encouraged in the house and making it >>like a graveyard, in which no recitation should take place, is forbidden. >>As for the recitation of Surah Yaseen, there is no narration concerning >>graveyards and the narration about its recitation over the dying is >>inauthentic (Da'eef). >> >>This portion taken from >>The Fundamentals of Tawheed (Islamic Monotheism) >>By Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips >> >>------------------------------------------------------- >>Women Visiting Graves >> >>It is permissible for women to visit a grave, but not recommended, because >>of the great sin of weeping at the grave. >>Most of the scholars hold it permissible for women to visit graves. This >>is based on the following hadith from 'Aishah (RA), >> >>"What should I say to them, O Messenger of Allah (SAW) when visiting >>graves?" As mentioned above Abdallah ibn Abi Mulaikah (RA) is also >>reported to have said, "Once 'Aishah (RA) returned after visiting the >>graveyard. I asked, 'O Mother of the Believers, where have you been?' She >>said: 'I went out to visit the grave of my brother Abd ar-Rahman.' I asked >>her: 'Didn't the Messenger of Allah (SAW) prohibit visiting graves?' She >>said, 'Yes, he did forbid visiting graves during the early days, but later >>on he ordered us to visit them'." (This is reported by Al-Hakim and >>Al-Baihaqi, who also remarked that this hadith was narrated only by Bistam >>bin Muslim al-Basri. Adh-Dhahabi said that it is a sound hadith) >> >>Anas (RA) reported: >> >>"The Prophet (SAW) saw a woman crying by the grave of her son, and said to >>her, 'Fear Allah, and be patient.' She replied, 'What do you care about my >>tragedy?' When he went away, someone told her, 'Indeed, that was the >>Messenger of Allah (SAW). ' The woman felt extremely sorry and she >>immediately went to the Prophet's house, where she did not find any >>guards. She called out: 'O Messenger of Allah! I did not recognize you.' >>The Prophet (SAW) said, 'Verily patience is needed at the time of the >>first affiction'.'' (Bukhari and Muslim) >> >>This supports the argument in favor of the permissibility of women >>visiting graves, for the Prophet (SAW) saw her at the grave and did not >>show his disapproval of it. >> >>The purpose of visiting graves is to remember the Hereafter, which is >>something that both men and women need. Men are by no means more in need >>of this reminder than women. Some scholars disliked it for women to visit >>graves as they are less patient and too emotional. The Prophet (SAW) said, >> >>"May Allah curse the women who are frequent visitors of the graves." >>(Reported by Ahmad, Ibn Majah, and Tirmidhi, who said that it is a sound >>hadith) >> >>Al-Qurtubi said: "The curse mentioned in this hadith applies only to those >>women who visit graves frequently. The reason for this curse lies perhaps >>in the fact that it involves infringement of the rights of the husband, >>and leads to adornment and exhibition of their beauty to strangers, and >>shouting, yelling, and other similar things." It may be said that, "If no >>such harm is feared from women visiting graves, then there is no valid >>reason for preventing them from visiting graves, for indeed remembrance of >>death is something that both men and women equally need." Commenting on >>Al-Qurtubi's view, Ash-Shawkani said, "This statement may form the basis >>for reconciling apparently contradictory hadith." >> >>--------------------------------- >> >>MOURNING FOR THE HUSBAND >> >>Wife is allowed to mourn for husband for four months and ten days >>Narrated Zainab bint Abi Salama (RA): >> >>"When the news of the death of Abu Sufyan reached from Sham, Um Habiba on >>the third day, asked for a yellow perfume and scented her cheeks and >>forearms and said, "No doubt, I would not have been in need of this, had I >>not heard the Prophet saying: 'It is not legal for a woman who believes in >>Allah and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days for any dead >>person except her husband, for whom she should mourn for four months and >>ten days.' " (Bukhari) >> >>============================== >>Wailing (Excessive Crying) >> >>Crying for extended periods of times, and/or crying where the voice is >>very loud, is haram. >> >>The Prophet (SAW) said, >> >>"The deceased who is wailed over is tortured for that wailing." (Bukhari) >> >>The Prophet (SAW) said, >> >>"He who slaps the cheeks, tears the clothes and follows the traditions of >>the Days of Ignorance is not from us." (Bukhari) >> >>=================== >>Crying in the Heart During Death Without Voice >> >>The Prophet (SAW) shed tears, but did NOT cry out in a loud voice. >>We went with Allah's Apostle (SAW) to the blacksmith Abu Saif, and he was >>the husband of the wet-nurse of Ibrahim (the son of the Prophet). Allah's >>Apostle (SAW) took Ibrahim and kissed him and smelled him and later we >>entered Abu Saif's house and at that time Ibrahim was in his last breaths, >>and the eyes of Allah's Apostle (SAW) started shedding tears. 'Abdur >>Rahman bin 'Auf said, "O Allah's Apostle, even you are weeping!" He said, >>"O Ibn 'Auf, this is mercy." Then he wept more and said, "The eyes are >>shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say except what >>pleases our Lord, O Ibrahim! Indeed we are grieved by your separation." >>(Bukhari) >> >>========================== >>Speaking About the Deceased >> >>There is punishment to the deceased when you speak ill off them at the >>time of the funeral. This does NOT mean that the deceased person hears >>you speaking ill or well of them (as mentioned above). >>Narrated Abu Al Aswad (RA), >> >>"I came to Medina when an epidemic had broken out. While I was sitting >>with 'Umar bin Al-Khattab a funeral procession passed by and the people >>praised the deceased. 'Umar said, "It has been affirmed to him." And >>another funeral procession passed by and the people praised the deceased. >>'Umar said, "It has been affirmed to him." A third (funeral procession) >>passed by and the people spoke badly of the deceased. He said, "It has >>been affirmed to him." I (Abu Al-Aswad) asked, "O chief of the believers! >>What has been affirmed?" He replied, "I said the same as the Prophet had >>said, that is: if four persons testify the piety of a Muslim, Allah will >>grant him Paradise." We asked, "If three persons testify his piety?" He >>[the Prophet (SAW)] replied, "Even three." Then we asked, "If two?" He >>replied, "Even two." We did not ask him regarding one witness. (Bukhari) >>Narrated Anas bin Malik (RA), >> >>"A funeral procession passed and the people praised the deceased. The >>Prophet (SAW) said, "It has been affirmed to him." Then another funeral >>procession passed and the people spoke badly of the deceased. The Prophet >>said, "It has been affirmed to him". 'Umar bin Al-Khattab asked [Allah's >>Apostle (SAW)], "What has been affirmed?" He replied, "You praised this, >>so Paradise has been affirmed to him; and you spoke badly of this, so Hell >>has been affirmed to him. You people are Allah's witnesses on earth." >>(Bukhari) >> >>============================= >>General Information About Funerals >> >>Abu Hurairah (RA) said, "Make your funerals speedy, for it is only good >>that you are advancing him towards, or evil that you are taking off your >>necks." 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