Thanx for sharing Ndokeh.
I think this idiot Demba needs to snap out of it and seek a divorce. If Miss Cotnoir refuses to grant him divorce, the friggin idiocy of a marriage can be annuled as if it never happened. Demba and Cotnoir can marry whomever they choose of whatever nationality they desire. Cotnoir can go to hell for all I care. Friggin pervert. Who the hell is she to say Demba cannot marry another Briton again if the two of them choose to? Travelling all the way to Gambia to get your mack on. Demba gave her the time of her life, one she cannot get in all Britain. What an ingrate. Instead of thanking Demba, she scorns him. What idiots!!!
Haruna.
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Revenge of Shirley Valentine: Humiliated gran refuses to divorce Gambian...so
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It is a familiar story: British grandmother on holiday falls for young Gambian
man and marries him only for the relationship to collapse.
The difference in this case, however, is that the African husband is the one
left dreaming about what might have been.
Mary Cotnoir, 59, realised that 25-year-old waiter Demba Sanneh had wooed her
purely because he wanted a visa to live in the UK.
Lovey-dovey: Mary Cotnoir, 59, became besotted with 6ft 6in Gambian Demba Senneh
on a holiday to Gambia in January. They married shortly afterwards but within
hours, the bridegroom turned cold
So she returned home without him, and is refusing to divorce him so he cannot
seek another British bride.
‘I plan to stay married to this man so he can’t do what he’s done to me to
another woman,’ said the nurse from Mansfield, Nottinghamshire. ‘He broke my
heart and I’ll never forgive him.’
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Mother-of-five Mrs Sanneh – despite the episode, she prefers to be known by her
married name – met her husband-to-be while visiting the West African country for
two weeks in January this year.
All white on the night: Mrs Sanneh and her 26-year-old husband both wore white
on their big day
In an echo of the movie Shirley Valentine about a smitten holidaymaker, she
quickly fell for the 6ft 6in waiter.
‘He was very athletic – I thought he was absolutely gorgeous,’ she said. ‘It did
cross my mind that he might only want to be with me because I was British, but
those fears evaporated when we were together.’
Mrs Sanneh, whose previous marriage ended in divorce, added: ‘I’d been single
for 20 years and this man made me feel more alive than I had in years. On the
second night he told me he was falling in love with me and we slept together
soon after that.
‘He seemed so sincere. He told me he despised the kind of men who saw English
women as their ticket into Britain.’
Till death us do part: Mrs Sanneh plans to stay married to Demba so that he
can't marry another women in order to get a UK passport
At the end of her holiday, she reluctantly went home but returned in March and
within 24 hours Mr Sanneh proposed. ‘I hadn’t been expecting it,’ she said. ‘But
I said yes. I was madly in love.’
The couple had planned to marry in the UK but Mr Sanneh’s application for a
tourist visa was refused.
Instead, his bride returned to Gambia in September and paid £500 to be married
in a traditional civil ceremony.
She said: ‘It was a magical day. Demba’s entire family were there – about 50 of
them – and there were drummers and dancing.
‘I wore a lovely white dress and Demba told me how beautiful I looked. It truly
was the happiest day of my life.’
Within hours of the wedding, however, she says her husband’s behaviour changed.
‘Demba started demanding money for him and his family. He became moody and
withdrawn. He refused to sleep with me. In fact, he stopped being affectionate
altogether.’
By the time Mrs Sanneh was due to return home eight days later, she knew the
marriage was over.
‘He didn’t even give me a kiss goodbye at the airport,’ she said.
‘Right up until I left he was asking me for money. In the end I gave him the
last of my foreign notes just to keep him quiet.’
Family affair: Mrs Sanneh poses with her new husband and his relatives. But soon
afterwards she claimed that he turned cold and demanded money from her
She added: ‘None of my children attended the wedding because I didn’t tell
anyone apart from my youngest son. He was always against it – he’s the same age
as Demba and he couldn’t understand why a young man would want to be with a
woman my age.’
The most recent Home Office statistics show that in 2008 115 Gambians were
granted British citizenship after marrying UK nationals.
Yesterday Mr Sanneh was still insisting his intentions were honourable. On the
phone from Gambia, he said: ‘We got married as I want to be her husband. I am
still her husband. I know Mary is in the UK but I would like our marriage to
work out.’
But his bride said: ‘I feel so stupid and humiliated. Although I’m lucky I
didn’t part with lots of cash – I gave him a few hundred pounds for driving
lessons and bought him a £400 laptop and a mobile – it doesn’t lessen the pain.
‘I’d planned to retire and spend the rest of my life with Demba, living for half
the year in Gambia and half in the UK, but that dream is now shattered.
‘He’s hurt me more than I could ever imagine.’
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